Wow, It is soooo hard to understand your spouse???
My marriage goes through a lot of rough patches, sometimes we have a blue sky, all is clear and then the storm rolls in and we have a lot of thunder and lightning.
My biggest challenge is falling or reverting into old behavior which tends to be negative and destructive. Recently, we were doing blue skies and all of a sudden, I must have missed the weather report a storm rolled in right under my nose. There I was, at a church function waiting on my side dish to arrive. It arrived alright, screeching tires and all. While my seven year old held my hand saying what's wrong with Papa and me in shear shock, scratching my head and then he disappeared behind the exhaust smoke. I looked at my son and said he must of had a bad day at the office and continued with our plans. We met this incredible couple who are missionaries that traveled from China to visit with our church. Listening to this couple speak of the AMAZING works being done in China and watching them sing, as the husband played the piano and the duo sang to us, all I could think about is how can I get to this, Lord.
How long is it going to take, my patience is wearing sooo thin, please help me be that wife and heal my heart. As I was serving our kids and finished grace, he arrived and sat like a frog on a log with a pout on his face. I went about my dinner and was acknowledged and loved by all; that evening more then usual. I had my fellow sisters in Christ give me hugs, admiration, and some of my girls from our youth ministry tell me how they thought I was the best.
The ego boost was unnecessary, but God did show me love, that night. I sometimes wonder if my husband feels so disconnected from me and our boys that he does not know how to fit into our lives. God is so glorious that we go unfazed by my husbands tantrums.
However, they weigh heavy on my heart, because I am very hard and tough, I am not nurturing to him, and he needs that, he wants me to sulk in his pity party, or for me to accept his behavior and not call him out on showing our boys to be so frantic and have no self control. As of today we have not discussed the incident and I am praying about it. I guess, writing is my therapy, if anyone has God advise,please feel free.
My marriage goes through a lot of rough patches, sometimes we have a blue sky, all is clear and then the storm rolls in and we have a lot of thunder and lightning.
My biggest challenge is falling or reverting into old behavior which tends to be negative and destructive. Recently, we were doing blue skies and all of a sudden, I must have missed the weather report a storm rolled in right under my nose. There I was, at a church function waiting on my side dish to arrive. It arrived alright, screeching tires and all. While my seven year old held my hand saying what's wrong with Papa and me in shear shock, scratching my head and then he disappeared behind the exhaust smoke. I looked at my son and said he must of had a bad day at the office and continued with our plans. We met this incredible couple who are missionaries that traveled from China to visit with our church. Listening to this couple speak of the AMAZING works being done in China and watching them sing, as the husband played the piano and the duo sang to us, all I could think about is how can I get to this, Lord.
How long is it going to take, my patience is wearing sooo thin, please help me be that wife and heal my heart. As I was serving our kids and finished grace, he arrived and sat like a frog on a log with a pout on his face. I went about my dinner and was acknowledged and loved by all; that evening more then usual. I had my fellow sisters in Christ give me hugs, admiration, and some of my girls from our youth ministry tell me how they thought I was the best.
The ego boost was unnecessary, but God did show me love, that night. I sometimes wonder if my husband feels so disconnected from me and our boys that he does not know how to fit into our lives. God is so glorious that we go unfazed by my husbands tantrums.
However, they weigh heavy on my heart, because I am very hard and tough, I am not nurturing to him, and he needs that, he wants me to sulk in his pity party, or for me to accept his behavior and not call him out on showing our boys to be so frantic and have no self control. As of today we have not discussed the incident and I am praying about it. I guess, writing is my therapy, if anyone has God advise,please feel free.
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